Tuesday, January 18, 2011

Bullies & Life, Part 4

So we've come to the end. You've survived thus far, barely, and your opponent shows no sign of disentregating. What now?

Well, it's time to confront him/it. It's time to show no fear, to put on the Shwarsenegro face, and pray to the deity you believe in. A simple ultimatum will do. Nothing fancy- just stand up to your perpretator of pain and speak from the mind.

"Enough is enough. You either cool it, or I take further action. You don't intimidate me, and I see right through your wall of "toughness". Now, I don't want to get the authorities involved, but believe you me, if that's what you want, that's what I'll do."

Turn on your heel, and sprint for your life like tremors is after your sorry butt.

Or, option two. To reason.

"Listen. How much longer are you going to keep this up? I understand you derive joy from this endless torture chamber, but don't you think its time to grow up and make better use of your time? What do you gain from this anyway? I'm still happy, you're still miserable. How about trying something constructive for a change? So you don't like me. Okay, no one said you have to. But just because you focus your efforts on making my life misery doesn't mean I'm going away. How bout getting used to my face, and channeling that energy to a positive end, eh?"

If you say with enough conviction in your voice and staunch stoicness in your eyes, he may just give it up.

Unfortunately, no matter how great you may try, or how many people you involve, sometimes they won't go away. But don't let it trip you up, kid. In the long run, it will help you develop a thick skin, if you learn how to overcome it the right way.

Courage is the discovery that you may not win, and trying when you know you can lose.

That's right. Just like Tom Krause stated, there are situations you won't be able to single-handedly eliminate. But that makes you a better person. Why's that? 

Because you'll have gained courage, an understanding of how the world works, (sad as it is) and    will be better prepared for what is to come next in life. If the next bully is your boss, there will be even LESS things you can do to alleviate the pain. But your attitude is key.

And remember, this situation will not go on forever. Surround yourself with good friends, positivity, and the negative things in your life will shrink.

Above all, keep in mind that you are not a failure. Don't let your opponent control your attitude, your happiness, and your being. You are your own master. Don't hand anyone that power but yourself. If you feel that you are beginning to sink in a pit of despair- learn how to recalibrate your thinking! And SPEAK up to those in your life whom are closest to you. Never underestimate the power of comfort and support people that love you can offer.

Speak up to the people that care about you. And dwell on the positive :)

Never forget: Bullies may not disappear, but your happiness doesn't have to. :)

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